spendon:

s h u t  t h e  f u c k  u p // a mix by lizzy spendon // the words tumbling out from your lips are like a pack of petulant children, always touching and breaking things they shouldn’t be. they need to stop. i don’t care what you do. i don’t care who you are. do what you want; scream, cry, dance your heart out, yell, or stomp. but just shut the fuck up.

✝ the vaccines // NORGAARD ✝ my chemical romance // PLANETARY (GO!) ✝  ok go // CRASH THE PARTY ✝ sleeper agent // GET BURNED ✝  the hush sound // THE BOYS ARE TOO REFINED ✝ american authors // HIT IT ✝  arctic monkeys // DANCING SHOES ✝  vampire weekend // GIANT ✝ frank turner // FOUR SIMPLE WORDS ✝ david bowie // LET’S DANCE ✝ 

"Forget about the bitching and remember that you’re blessed, because punk is for the kids who never fit in with the rest. Somebody told me that music with guitars was going out of fashion, and I had to laugh. This shit wasn’t fashionable back when I fell in love, so if the hipsters move on why should I give a fuck?"
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spendon:

s h u t  t h e  f u c k  u p // a mix by lizzy spendon // the words tumbling out from your lips are like a pack of petulant children, always touching and breaking things they shouldn’t be. they need to stop. i don’t care what you do. i don’t care who you are. do what you want; scream, cry, dance your heart out, yell, or stomp. but just shut the fuck up.

✝ the vaccines // NORGAARD ✝ my chemical romance // PLANETARY (GO!) ✝  ok go // CRASH THE PARTY ✝ sleeper agent // GET BURNED ✝  the hush sound // THE BOYS ARE TOO REFINED ✝ american authors // HIT IT ✝  arctic monkeys // DANCING SHOES ✝  vampire weekend // GIANT ✝ frank turner // FOUR SIMPLE WORDS ✝ david bowie // LET’S DANCE

"Forget about the bitching and remember that you’re blessed, because punk is for the kids who never fit in with the rest. Somebody told me that music with guitars was going out of fashion, and I had to laugh. This shit wasn’t fashionable back when I fell in love, so if the hipsters move on why should I give a fuck?"

delete any of this text and i excruciate you // AVAILABLE HERE

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If you’re a boy writer, it’s a simple rule: you’ve gotta get used to the fact that you suck at writing women and that the worst women writer can write a better man than the best male writer can write a good woman. And it’s just the minimum. Because the thing about the sort of heteronormative masculine privilege, whether it’s in Santo Domingo, or the United States, is you grow up your entire life being told that women aren’t human beings, and that women have no independent subjectivity. And because you grow up with this, it’s this huge surprise when you go to college and realize that, “Oh, women aren’t people who does my shit and fucks me.”

And I think that this a huge challenge for boys, because they want to pretend they can write girls. Every time I’m teaching boys to write, I read their women to them, and I’m like, “Yo, you think this is good writing?” These motherfuckers attack each other over cliche lines but they won’t attack each other over these toxic representations of women that they have inherited… their sexist shorthand, they think that is observation. They think that their sexist distortions are insight. And if you’re in a writing program and you say to a guy that their characters are sexist, this guy, it’s like you said they fucking love Hitler. They will fight tooth and nail because they want to preserve this really vicious sexism in the art because that is what they have been taught.

And I think the first step is to admit that you, because of your privilege, have a very distorted sense of women’s subjectivity. And without an enormous amount of assistance, you’re not even going to get a D. I think with male writers the most that you can hope for is a D with an occasional C thrown in. Where the average women writer, when she writes men, she gets a B right off the bat, because they spent their whole life being taught that men have a subjectivity. In fact, part of the whole feminism revolution was saying, “Me too, motherfuckers.” So women come with it built in because of the society.

It’s the same way when people write about race. If you didn’t grow up being a subaltern person in the United States, you might need help writing about race. Motherfuckers are like ‘I got a black boy friend,’ and their shit sounds like Klan Fiction 101.

The most toxic formulas in our cultures are not pass down in political practice, they’re pass down in mundane narratives. It’s our fiction where the toxic virus of sexism, racism, homophobia, where it passes from one generation to the next, and the average artist will kill you before they remove those poisons. And if you want to be a good artist, it means writing, really, about the world. And when you write cliches, whether they are sexist, racist, homophobic, classist, that is a fucking cliche. And motherfuckers will kill you for their cliches about x, but they want their cliches about their race, class, queerness. They want it in there because they feel lost without it. So for me, this has always been the great challenge.

As a writer, if you’re really trying to write something new, you must figure out, with the help of a community, how can you shed these fucking received formulas. They are received. You didn’t come up with them. And why we need fellow artists is because they help us stay on track. They tell you, “You know what? You’re a bit of a fucking homophobe.” You can’t write about the world with these simplistic distortions. They are cliches. People know art, always, because they are uncomfortable. Art discomforts. The trangressiveness of art has to deal with confronting people with the real. And sexism is a way to avoid the real, avoiding the reality of women. Homophobia is to avoid the real, the reality of queerness. All these things are the way we hide from encountering the real. But art, art is just about that.

Junot Diaz speaking at Word Up: Community Bookshop in 2012 (via furthest-city-light)

I’d like to think I can make a C…

But then, there is a reason there are books on how to meet women.

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fuckyeahsexeducation:

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stablevertigo:

I would like to give Planned Parenthood and their Teen Council forum 10/10 stars

idk about you all, but this made me cryand i know not all forms do this, this might be the only one, but knowing that at least one organization recognizes me as a person, doesn’t ask me to lie to fit their box, is one of the most calming and beautiful things to experience.and i’m just waiting for the day when government forms use this, when schools ask for preferred pronouns, when everywhere has an other category for gender and pronouns.we’re getting there, y’all.  we’re demanding to be seen and it’s working

PLANNED PARENTHOOD YES. Thank you, so awesome.


This is really great. I would like to caution people though that every Planned Parenthood is different. Not all clinics will have this on their forms, and although most clinics aren’t trans negative, treatment options like HRT and other trans resources vary from clinic to clinic.

fuckyeahsexeducation:

frontier-heart:

nonbinary-support:

stablevertigo:

I would like to give Planned Parenthood and their Teen Council forum 10/10 stars

idk about you all, but this made me cry
and i know not all forms do this, this might be the only one, but knowing that at least one organization recognizes me as a person, doesn’t ask me to lie to fit their box, is one of the most calming and beautiful things to experience.

and i’m just waiting for the day when government forms use this, when schools ask for preferred pronouns, when everywhere has an other category for gender and pronouns.

we’re getting there, y’all.  we’re demanding to be seen and it’s working

PLANNED PARENTHOOD YES. Thank you, so awesome.

This is really great. I would like to caution people though that every Planned Parenthood is different. Not all clinics will have this on their forms, and although most clinics aren’t trans negative, treatment options like HRT and other trans resources vary from clinic to clinic.

fixyourwritinghabits:

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Reblogging in honor of the last day of Social Work Month.  These arent ranked in any particular order so check them all out.  If I missed you just let me know!

yo I’m reblogging this because it can seriously help folks out, definitely a list worth keeping.

fixyourwritinghabits:

creativesocialworker:

Social Worker Tumblrs

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Reblogging in honor of the last day of Social Work Month.  These arent ranked in any particular order so check them all out.  If I missed you just let me know!

yo I’m reblogging this because it can seriously help folks out, definitely a list worth keeping.

(via fuckyeahsexeducation)